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Be True to Yourself

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You must stand up for what you believe in.

Be true to your convictions.

Bargaining away those values results in you loosing who you are.

In turn that creates a life that is not a part of you.

Result:  Unhappiness

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Learn to live an authentic life.

Probably the most difficult pursuits of being true to ourselves is the parts of ourself that is so different from the world that surrounds us. Different then what the world expects of us. Different then the expectations others have for us.  Different in they don’t believe in an aspect of your authentic self.  Different because it goes against beliefs of those that are most close to us.  Different because it seems rebellious. Different because it seems to threaten another simply by following what is true to you. Different because someone else has an entirely ‘different’ agenda for you.  Visually different than others.  So the story of different offers many varieties and spices of life. It is what brings color to our world.

In the summer I have a part-time Face Painting position in a couple of the local county parks.  The kids and their parents line up with great enthusiasm to get their cheeks, arms or legs painted.  They absolutely love it!  The position reaps with positivity and appreciation by all who seek it out.

One day there was this young couple (late teens – early 20’s) and a few of their friends stood in line to get their arms painted.  I notice that they had tattoos all over their bodies.  I have no desire to have a tattoo whatsoever.  But I wanted to better understand their ‘why’ of tattoing.  So, I simply asked them.  “Why do you get tatto’s?”  Each one of them stood their in great delight and offered me reasons for each tattoo they had and the reason behind it. As I was listening, I better understood their ‘why’ for tattoing their bodies.  I said to them, “they tell a story, they tell your story”.”Yes”, they said.

It was in that moment I felt this connection to them.  Everyone wants to tell their story, and these young folks chose to tell their story by displaying it in tattoos.  I was fascinated. I could see their faces light up, being able to tell their stories of each tattoo and being accepted that was the way they chose to express their story.  It was the allowing, the listening and the sincere interest I offered to them, that they felt safe and accepted.

In spite of their difference, they were authentic to themselves. I chose to understand their authentic self. That brought connection.  Connection to anothers difference will often give ourselves permission to express our own differences that scream from our own authentic self.

I have no closer desire to get tattoed, but it allowed me to understand that doing different, being different from afar can seem alien, but up close it is merely an individual being authentic to their true selves.

By Diana Wanamaker

Copyright June 20, 2016

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Are You the Zebra With Different Colored Stripes?

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What it right for one soul may not be right for another. It may mean having to stand on your own and do something strange in the eyes of others.
-Eileen Caddy
Are you different?! Misunderstood? And often outcast for the many different ways you go about things. The different philosophies, values, ideas, etc. It can be a lonely road sometimes! And it is always such a joy to meet another that is a kindred spirit like yourself and speaks out to the world in being different!
No matter how hard I try to fit in sometimes, it goes against my grain. It is much like trying on a coat, that you think might just fit you well and flatter you, as so many are wearing it and it looks all so good on them. So, you give it try and wear it and you think, ok, maybe I can get used to this, maybe it’s not so bad. Think positive. But time passes and within you know it’s just not you, but you so badly want to fit in and do what everyone else is doing, just so it’s easier, so your liked, so your accepted, so your not so alone all the time. But the yearning within your heart and soul become increasingly unhappy with the coat. It doesn’t fit well, it doesn’t flatter you and it is isn’t YOU! So, you take it off, and as you take it off, the acceptance, the friends, and those around you fade away. But, you have YOU now! You have your heart and soul back, you know it within. It does not show itself to others, but you know what coat fits you best and what one shows who you really are best.
So, there is a Ying Yang of being different. Being true to ones self and loving and accepting ones’ self is first! One can never be happy trying to please the crowd, and leaving the inner callings of the soul.
And one day it will shine like no other!!!

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